Women before you get married get this facts right …Never make the mistake of marrying a man who cannot provide for you and his family. I am not telling you to marry a rich man or a millionaire. Marry a man who understands that it is the role of a man to provide for his family and kids. This days Married women who are given the burden of paying rent and school fees end up being very bitter with life because that is not the role of a woman as per say. You can use your money to buy a new TV, Clothes kids etc but do not take the role of being the bread winner in that house if the husband is able. If you are dating a man who cannot pay for dates that is the first red flag. Do not be confused, run. It does not matter what he does for a living. He should be able to take care of his family… on a polite note date a man with brains we all have dicks!!
Dude has a point you know? if he shows no capability or willingness in the early days think the best thing is to run. Remember the Polish new lovely neighbour with many ‘visiting hunks’? the baby daddy has been visiting regularly coz I can hear the cutie shouting for him. Each time I bump into them at the local grocery store, she is the one handling the groceries and of course removing her card. Remember he is an aspiring DJ as ‘they all are’ as I hear him play crap music all day…night nili-complain. Look so he moved into her apartment!!
Latest dev is that they seem to ask the boy to hide, they will hunt for him as they get down and dirty…he calls out ‘mummy and daddy I have been hiding for so long and you have not come looking for me’ kikikikiki
How old is this woman? It’s one thing to have children with a dead beat but to continue accommodating him and his foolishness is just plain insane but then again, some women just worship men, they will sooner move a bum off the street than be by themselves. To each her own. The unfortunate thing is that the more you give a man the more he expects and the less he appreciates. He knows he’s supposed to be the provider instinctively so he also knows that you as the woman are providing out of desperation and that alone makes you lose respect and value in his eyes. How can any man love or respect a woman who let’s him take advantage of her? It’s only later when he provides for another woman that the Betty the builder women are left bitter and burdened. The loneliness they were escaping becomes their unwanted companion. A wise man once told me, money can’t buy friends and it certainly can’t buy love. Anyway I can’t begrudge anyone, after all they will carry their own cross, not me. I am carrying my own.
She can’t be more than 25y/o…by my estimate. That dude looks at me sheepishly coz he knows we black mamas know their shady deals. The other day we came home v late at night kendu 2am and he was standing at the balcony furiously texting on his phone while she was asleep I guess:mad:. It really is none of my bizna but I can’t help noticing stuff that is so in my face. Plus I like the little bundle of energy and his mum.
Anyway back to our original post…this comment is a killer…yet so true…on a polite note date a man with brains we all have dicks!!
There can be nothing worse kama mwanaume hatumii akili. Nothing.