When growing up, when you met a girl you fancied, we used to do all manner of background checks and if we realised she wasn’t the right one, mtu ulikuwa unasonga mbele kama injili. Nowadays, this modernity bullshit makes young people think that just because you met a clever boy or girl you can figure out shit together. One always gets hurt. And it is the boy. When dating, good intentions are never good enough.
How do you know that the girl you have is broken?
- She is rebellious for no reason, whatsoever.
- Wherever you meet, you are always solving one of her myriad problems: family, her child, her finances, everything.
- She argues about simple house keeping chores but quiet about splitting of bills.
- She drinks and gets drunk like a man.
- She has never-ending family squables.
- She speaks ill of all her exes. It is like she is an angel and everything that happens to her is because there is a cosmic conspiracy against her.
- Blames everyone for all her fuckups but never heself.
- She hangs out with very toxic female friends, whose behaviour she defends.
- Has a tattoo.
- Has piercings.
- Yet to decide what to do with the baby daddy. Still sleeps with him, even as she actively looks for a new relationship.
- No sooner you start dating her than she wants a marriage. A wedding, no less.
- She is petty and insecure.
- She is dramatic. By the way, dramatic women cheat a lot. The drama they create is to distract you. So if your woman ni wa kupasua masimu, kukata manguo, smashing windscreens, dude, you dating an actor. Run.
- Cries a lot. Don’t ever, ever, ever as a man, let a woman’s tears mislead you. When a woman cries, she is about to gaslight you from here to to sun and back. Make decisions based on logic. Female tears are faker than Jubilee campaign promises. Take it from me.
- She is ever in need of financial help. A financially needy woman, is a dangerous one. More so, one who knows, that men can take the tab in exchange for a little of something. It is not uncommon to find a girl has like ten men solving one of her problems at the same time. Often as men we send money in good faith. What you don’t know, ten similar men are being sympathetic. I have visited girls who live like queens, with no job. By the way stop sending women money. They don’t respect you when you send them money. They love those who don’t send, better.
I could go, but you catch the drift.
You are not a rescue mission. Damsels-in-distress always waste your time until they find the next man who they think can be expedient for them. They are an ungrateful lot, and you are to blame for trying to help.
A typical damsel-in-distress is a girl you pick from the gutter, literally, dust up, spend a fortune on, and once she is someone, she will turn on you, and claim, that she loves someone else. You know the type men take to school, and then start dating another man, calling you backward. And any girl who thinks that behaviour is OK.
So, women are not wired to be loyal. Not wired to be grateful. Most women think financial favours can be offset by sex.
So, unless you are her father, brother, pastor, stay ten million kilometres from any woman who exhibits any needy(emotional, financial or physical) behaviour. Let her fix herself.
Get a woman who has her shit together, full accountable for her mistakes and willing to learn. Because you are not a rehabilitation center, man.
Desperation is normally a red flag.
Here is to great Thursday and weekend champs. Don’t be manipulated.