I had a meeting with a male friend of mine, he is in a difficult position, he has been putting up a very big beautiful bungalow in Kitengela, some kms from the shopping center, he was planning to move this month and say good bye to landlords and caretakers.
lakini bibi amesema hatoki pahali wanaishi.currently they live in Mt View huko Waiyaki way, paying 50k rent.
Bibi anasema they rent out the house and use the money to pay rent, considering they both work in parklands, so Waiyaki way is very convenient she argues. So jana they had a serious argument and bibi akalipuka na maneno “ukitaka kutafuta bibi mwingine mkaishi na yeye huko jangwani ni sawa”.
The guy was really hurt by that last statement, he told me he is considering it coz haoni vile atalipa nyumba akiwa na kwake.
NB/ they met 3yrs ago and the guy was already putting up the house…so it was not a joint project that they had talked about.
Until he told me what the wife said about bibi mwingine, i was thinking the wife has a point… but after that nikaona huyo bibi ni kisirani.
hii maneno brown boy @Top-Gun akuje alete advice. Meanwhile, aendelee kuishi Waiyaki way lakini asilipe rent. the situation will force a critical decision to be made
am sure your male friend is you , na ni ukweli “huyo bibi ni kisirani” run away as fast as you can
don’t even look back lest you turn into a salt statue like Lot’s wife
Yaani as a male unaendelea tuu na maisha poa then you decide to let a woman in so as to please the society. From there you will have to consider and accommodate her in all the decisions that you will be making for the rest of your life. Fuck that shit man. Wahenga hawakukosea waliposema MGTOW=Freedom
Awachane hiyo kunguru ASAP… Hii maisha sio rehearsal… Acheze kiyeye, na ile roadmap ameunda since time immemorial…
Such women are the kind who derail you, then you get depressed and confused and you whither away into a life of oblivion and also rans if you are not careful…
Aamke ahame… Kunguru itafuata, ama ibaki Kwa dumpsite…
Kama hana watoto he should not think twice about moving to kite but he can also opt to rent out the house in kite at a higher rental income compared to what they’d pay for rent at Waiyaki way, that way he’d be earning from his asset.
Wewe hauna kichwa mzuri. With this mentality utakaliwa na bibi kama fala. He has only one choice here, moving to Kitengela. It is upon the wife to decide whether she wants to follow him or not. If not, asijaribu kulipia hiyo nyumba ya Waiyaki Way rent, awache bibi aendelee kulipa kwenye anaishi. Ukianza kufikiria vile unafikiria you will become a pushover very quickly and you will have a very miserable marriage.
Wewe ni akili naona iko kasoro kidogo, usijali, mental illness is a disease like any other utapona tu. In other news, nyumba si ni ya uyo jamaa? So what is the issue if he does with it as he wishes i.e rent the place if it makes financial sense, then lipa nyumba karibu na ofisi yako. He may eventually end up saving some money especially if you factor in pesa ya mafuta plus servicing the car juu anaishi kwa kichaka. The bitching wife is a non issue from my angle, pesa na nyumba ni zake.
Lakini advices zingine hufanyanga nikasirike mbaya sana nitake kuingia phone nikute mwenye anauliza. Tell me, ujenge nyumba na pesa yako, iyo pesa umeitafta kwa bidii, and then some fella who’s only be in your life for three years ndo anadictate venye utaishi?? Seriously?? Being a simp is a very deadly disease, and by the way, wife hawezi katalia kutoka hapo bure am pretty sure there’s some dick around that’s very accessible ndo hataki kuacha. If in doubt go watch Narcos, Fernando Duque’s wife refused to move to United States even when they were in the face of looming danger, just because of dick. Mwanamke ni kubembelezwa tu kabla akupee senyeste, after that, heshima idumu.
Someone here posted this picture a while back and it still cracks me up to this day.:D:D
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I think it depends where the house is located in Kitengela. Some of those places are so dry and remote even the savings your friend thinks he will make, will be consumed by the cost of commuting, wear and tear to the car, not to mention the loss of time spent in traffic, convenience to work place, STRESS…
At the end of the day, what matters most is where does HE want to live? If it is Kitengela, he has to decide what’s more important between living in Kitengela and being with her. Also,let him be warned, divorce can get messy with the properties. A smart lawyer with a smart interpretation of what a non-financial contribution to the acquisition of property means and his hard-earned assets could evaporate.
As an aside, Kenya is slowly getting to an age where divorces will be more common-place and the pressure for feminist divorce policies and rulings will be higher. Is it really worth it to gamble your life’s sweat in a marriage? Food for thought.